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Friends with benefits is a ridiculous concept and it's often just an excuse for poor behavior. The vast majority of men and women agree that making love in a committed, loving relationship is far superior to just a casual hook-up. Sometimes, two people will verbally agree that their relationship is only friends with benefits. But there are more women who say they are okay with being friends with benefits than women who actually are okay with being friends with benefits. Usually, the woman is lying to herself or to the man while secretly hoping that the relationship will become more serious.
Other times, it's less clear and a woman wonders if the man sees her as a girlfriend or as a friend with benefits. If what a man says and what he does don't match, pay more attention to what he does. Men are creatures of action, and actions speak louder than words. If thinks you're relationship material, he will acknowledge those days and make an effort to do something special.
If he has other plans or doesn't remember to acknowledge the special days, you're definitely not considered girlfriend material to him. He seldom calls to see how you are or just to check in. There are few texts just to say "have a good day" or "goodnight. If you don't feel well, he's not interested in getting together to provide comfort, and he rarely remembers to check back in to see if you're feeling better If he's looking at you as relationship material, he wants to be seen in public with you.
He wants you to meet his friends and family, and go to work parties with you. If you're just friends with benefits, he doesn't want to involve you with other important people in his life. If he's looking at you as relationship material, he will want to do other things with you besides being in bed. He will want to in activities you enjoy and share his hobbies with you. If you have a project to do and he wants a relationship, he will offer to help. He will want to make your life easier and participate so he can spend time with you. If time together is unlikely to lead to sex, he's not interested in getting together.
When you do have sex, it's likely that he will leave before morning or want you to go if you're at his place. He will not leave you at his place when he has to go to work. You'll be leaving when he leaves, or before. If you have not had a specific talk about being exclusive, don't assume the relationship is exclusive! Even if you have had the talk, do his actions match his words? If not, refer to his actions — they speak louder than words. If he indicates that he's not in a place to have a serious relationship for any reason, take him at his word.
This is the one instance in which words matter more than actions. Don't read into his actions that he really wants a relationship with you when he has said he doesn't. If the man is putting in minimal effort, he thinks about you as only a friend with benefits. Minimal effort looks different in different situations. It may be that you're doing the bulk of initiating contact. It may be that he only calls you at the end of a night out with the guys. If you're honest with yourself, you feel it.
You know you're towards the bottom of his priority list. If he sees you as someone to have a relationship with, he will put in the effort to spend time with you and do things you enjoy. He will notice what pleases you and do little things like give you a card or flowers occasionally.
Often, the same man will treat different women completely differently. Each woman is treated the way that she feels worthy of being treated. Decide what you want in a relationship and stop settling for less than you want. It's great to have friends and benefits , but if you seek a loving relationship and a strong bond with a partner, keep looking. in. YourTango Experts. Expert Blog. Photo: getty. Tamara Mason. Subscribe to our newsletter.
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