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The year-old publisher from Virginia isn't celibate. Happily married for 25 years, Cook said his sex life is more exciting than ever and giving up the goal-oriented climax has improved every aspect of his life. Cook, the father of adult two sons, is a newcomer to karezza , a form of intercourse that emphasizes affection while staying far from the edge of orgasm.
Climax is not the goal and ideally does not occur while making love. Cook is one of a growing of men who have embraced karezza and have found it has helped heal their marriages, inject more spark into their sex lives and even shed porn addiction. A recovering porn addict, Cook suffered from performance anxiety with girlfriends. Sex got better with his wife, but he didn't know how much until he discovered karezza.
Deb Feintech, a counselor from Portland, Maine, uses karezza to help couples repair their broken relationships. And Feintech said the practice is not just helpful for middle-aged couples struggling with the ennui of a long marriage, but for young couples headed to the altar. They are snuggling, holding and breathing with eye contact and flow. It's very conscious -- from the genitals to the heart. The word karezza was coined by Dr. Alice Bunker Stockham, a Chicago obstetrician and early feminist who promoted birth control, a ban on corsets and sexual fulfillment for both genders.
In , she wrote a book by that name -- from the Italian word carezza, which means caress. For strengthening marriages, she encouraged what was then called "male continence," although in the interest of equality, she asked that women abstain from orgasm, as well. Marnia L. Robinson has carried the contemporary torch in her book, "Cupid's Poisoned Arrow," and on her website, Reuniting: Healing With Sexual Relationships.
Technique is "virtually immaterial," she says. A former corporate lawyer and now a devotee, Robinson argues that karezza's power is rooted in neuroscience. In the "passion cycle of orgasm," the hormone dopamine rises in anticipation of sex, then crashes after orgasm, creating a biochemical "hangover," according to Robinson.
In men, that happens almost immediately after ejaculation ; for women , it can be two weeks before the brain returns to homeostasis, according to Robinson. Overstimulation of the pleasure receptors can also desensitize the brain to pleasure or create a craving for more. When men are addicted to pornography or have frequent orgasms, "no amount of pleasure can satisfy," she said. But in karezza, lovemaking never finishes, so sexual energy continues to flow, helping to prevent boredom with a partner, say advocates. Karezza also elicits the relaxation response and encourages the brain to release the "love" hormone ocytocin, which helps in bonding behavior.
Robinson, unable to sustain intimacy, had been married twice before meeting her husband Gary Wilson, a former science teacher who helped her in her research. He had experienced depression and alcohol addiction, but after the couple explored karezza together, he was able to give up Prozac and drinking. Though many other men look at Wilson "like I am crazy," he said karezza can surprisingly help "rekindle things" in a long-term relationship. Such was the case with Darryl Keil, a year-old furniture maker from Brunswick, Maine, who has been married to his wife Annabelle for 29 years.
They run a business and homeschooled two sons together. About 14 years ago he read a book on sex and Taoism after feeling "depleted" and looking for something to rejuvenate their sex lives. Eventually, that led him to karezza. For the last eight years neither one has had an intentional orgasm.
He calls the old sex: "lick, pump, squirt, snore," an act that was driven by the man. Now, his wife feels she is an equal partner in the bedroom. They are having sex every day -- "and it's not boring," said Keil, who is writing a book and runs small workshops. You follow the sensation in your body, not the stimulation. Everest and not get to the top? Like others, the Keils experience occasional orgasms "accidentally," but karezza guru Marnia Robinson said it does not violate any rules. But young people, too, can try their hand at karezza, she said.
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