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We explain why someone would keep asking to go home and share 3 kind, soothing ways to respond that help them let go of the idea. The kindest thing to do is to meet them where they are, focus on comfort and reassurance, and respond to the emotions behind their request. Helping them to calm down also gives you a chance to check if discomfort, pain, or a physical need is causing this behavior.
This helps them feel understood and supported. Approach your older adult with a calm, soothing, and relaxed manner. If you remain calm, it often helps them calm down too. If they like hugs, this is a good time for one. Others may prefer gentle touching or stroking on their arm or shoulder or simply having you sit with them. Another way of giving extra comfort and reassurance is to give them a soothing blanket , therapy doll , or stuffed animal. It will only make them more insistent, agitated, and upset. Validate, redirect, and distract Being able to redirect and distract is an effective dementia care technique.
Next, redirect and distract After agreeing, subtly redirect their attention. This redirection should lead into pleasant and distracting activities that take their minds away from wanting to go home. Point out some of the beautiful birds and flowers outside or offer a snack or drink they like. Or, ask them to tell you about their home. After a while, guide the conversation to a neutral topic. Asking about their home validates their feelings, encourages them to share positive memories, and distracts them from their original goal of going home.
Open questions that encourage them to share their thoughts work well. Sometimes, your older adult will refuse to let go of the idea of going home, no matter how much you try to soothe or redirect. If that happens, you might need to agree to take them home and then go for a brief car ride. Experiment with how long it takes before you can take them home without protest. Or, suggest a stop at the ice cream shop, drugstore, or grocery store to distract and redirect. This will shows that you agree with them and are helping to achieve their goal.
Meanwhile, the activities of getting ready give you more chances to distract and redirect to something else. Keep in mind that not everything you try will work the first time. And even if something works once, it might not work the next time. Do your best to stay calm, flexible, and creative — this technique gets easier with practice.
I have been caring for my father, 93, the past month in my home. This site has been valuable to me as I am beginning to see new behaviours with my dad that I was concerned about. It is very calming for him to reminisce, especially about home. Thank you. My Mother used to say that, now unfortunately she doesnt even ask that. I would go on a walk with her outside and ask her where she lived, she told me our address and we looked for the s on the house till we found it.
Sometimes we went down the block to ready the of the street and then looked for the of our house. Singing and music always helps for everything with my Mother. You would also be scared. He also threatened to kill himself. Wants to go out late at night. Dementia is hard on everyone, especially the person who has it. I understand what you are saying about a person wanting to go home but if that person is going on and on about going home to see there mam and dad who died years ago and gets out the door after I have done every thing you suggest what convinces them now that they are home you have to live with some one 24 hours a day to know what it is like.
It can be tough to find ways to distract someone from these thoughts and some people can be more persistent than others. Unfortunately, the only answer is to keep trying different things and to keep distracting and redirecting. My husband constantly tells me he wants to go home. I ask him his address and he told me the correct address. I asked him what his house looked like and he described the outside of the house he lived at. Then I asked him what the inside looked like and he described his childhood home. So he has 3 places combined into one. He has lived at this address for over 40 years so time means nothing.
Most of the time he is talking about his childhood home and thinks he is 15 years old and me thinking I am his mother are waiting for his dad to come home from work. I tell him the truth that the house across from the school was were he grew up and he moved from there when he was 19 and got married.
Then, of course, he wants to know who lives there and I again tell him the truth, that a young couple with children live there and are taking very good care of the home. He like others gets in a loop so I may have to do this for an hour but as long as this is what I need to do I will.
He follows me around the house as well but that is ok. He has his job like folding towels and checking the weather on tv and other simple task. He needs to feel like he is contributing as well with jobs. I always carry on how folding that load of clothes helped me so much. Get lots of smiles with that. Helpful information, and guidance provided in such a caring and accessible manner.
Wonderful helpful . If anyone has any more tips with coping during evening time and wanting to go home. Would really appreciate. Thank you once again. What a coincidence. This just happened this morning with my Mom. She was fine after about 10 to 15 minutes. I do it out of love. Hopefully the tips in the above article will help you respond when she says she wants to go home to Oklahoma. Thank you for all of your love, concern, and care for your parent! I do this as well for my dad and am planning to continue doing it for the long-haul. As a live in carer I am soo pleased to have found this .
It is unbelievably helpful, with references to all sorts of questions that crop up when caring for someone with dementia. She sometimes would wake me up in the middle of night, fully dressed, saying she needed to get home as her mother would be worried about her, she could become very distressed. Fortunately during the day one was able to distract her as she loved jigsaw puzzles and we would spend hours doing them.
One just has to go with the flow and them in their world. I read your article about some of the toys that one could use. I have witnessed many a client attach themselves to a toy, particularly a soft cuddly one! I saw the Plush Puppy mentioned as one of the toys and I have a client who just loves dogs and used to have her own, she would just love this, but alas, the cost of it is prohibitive, just find it soo sad that all these things are so outrageously expensive, Many families are not in a position to take care of their loved ones and are forced to pay a carer to do this.
It is costly and yes, if I could, I would do it for nothing! But am very aware of the financial strain it can have having experienced this with my own mother I just wondered if there was any way one could get these manufacturers to discount these items for those with dementia?
Any suggestions would be welcome. I look forward to hearing from you all. My senior seems to be very attracted to me, talks about his inappropriate thoughts often, I told him that I was very happily married and asked him to keep his thoughts to himself, also let him know, kindly that he keeps his hands off of certain parts of my body.Who wants ome help
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